Be Rude to These People
The author explains the necessity of dealing rudely with the curious, the bigoted, and the untrustworthy.
Translated by Alqyas from Al-Seyassah — Original source
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A person may be rude in their interactions with certain individuals when they are direct in their speech and answers to their questions, without necessarily being harsh or impolite.
Some individuals possess twisted and repulsive personalities that require dealing with them harshly, particularly by employing frankness and directness, and by minimizing the use of courtesy. With such people, rudeness is the only effective approach. Some examples include:
- The Nosy Neighbor: The term “nosy” refers to a person who is inquisitive to an insect-like degree, inserting themselves into matters that do not concern them. Logically, such impudent individuals must be deterred, as their interference in others’ lives aims to uncover and expose secrets, possibly to spread them among the general public or to use them as material for gossip and slander.
- The Shameless: Courtesy toward the shameless is inappropriate, as is ignoring their rudeness and lack of modesty, especially if they are peers or social equals. Dealing with them rudely carries no moral stain, does not damage one’s reputation, and there is no logical reason to refrain from using appropriate methods with those who have cast modesty aside, chosen rudeness instead, and dared to act in ways that those who respect the dignity and worth of their fellow human beings—equals in every respect—would never dare.
- The Bigoted: Some individuals exhibit tribal, sectarian, or factional bigotry, believing themselves superior to their victims. You will not find a bigot who is not also excessively arrogant. Morally and logically, it is unacceptable to overlook their hatred, arrogance, and lack of modesty, especially when, at their core, they are ordinary, fallible human beings—not saints or angels.
- The Lacking in Sincerity and Trustworthiness: In our daily lives, particularly in the outside world, we interact with individuals who are sincere and trustworthy in their words and actions. However, we sometimes find ourselves compelled to deal with those who lack these moral qualities (sincerity and trustworthiness). Since “fear improves performance,” the only logical option is to deal with them harshly, as such individuals are deterred only by caution, vigilance, precision, and by not overlooking their toxic behavior. God knows best.
A Kuwaiti writer
