Easy Money... Tasteless
When we talk about marriage, I sometimes hear women stipulate that a man must be wealthy, and I find myself wondering: What will you offer him in return?
This question is not meant to mock or diminish anyone’s worth, but rather to view the relationship in a more realistic and fair light. What drives a successful and wealthy man to choose a life partner who is not wealthy? What does he lack that the woman seeking a rich man can provide?
I believe that in recent years, many discourses have emerged discussing positive energy, attracting luck and wealth, and the concept of deservingness. Some people have been influenced by these ideas to the extent of believing that merely dreaming of wealth brings them closer to it.
Among these perceptions, some have developed the dream of marrying a wealthy person as the shortest path to comfort. But life is not a Walt Disney movie, and not all wealthy men are princes looking for a simple girl waiting to be rescued.
On the other hand, I see nothing wrong with a person having material goals. Everyone has the right to work hard, develop themselves, strive to increase their income, improve their standard of living, and secure their family’s future. The desire for a better home, travel opportunities, or a higher level of comfort and well-being are natural and legitimate human aspirations.
The truth is that money solves many of life’s problems. We live in this world, not in paradise, and reality has its demands and responsibilities. However, despite its importance, money is not a guarantee of permanent happiness or a stable life. A woman might earn a million dollars, and people’s perception of her might change overnight, with congratulations pouring in from all sides. Yet this does not grant her immunity from illness, accidents, or the vicissitudes of fate.
We have seen many stories reminding us that money is an important means, but it is not the supreme value upon which we should build our entire lives.
Therefore, I believe that flexibility is one of the most beautiful qualities a person can possess. The flexible individual adapts to changing roles and circumstances, and can transition from individual thinking to family responsibility without constant feelings of complaint or deprivation.
Moreover, contentment helps people face life’s fluctuations with calmness, whereas those who base all their relationships on personal gain may abandon others at the first sign of difficulty or loss.
This highlights the importance of moral goals. Leaving a positive impact, building healthy relationships, upholding principles, or serving others are all objectives that give people a deeper sense of meaning. These do not conflict with material success; rather, they complement it and make it more valuable.
Perhaps the problem is not in choosing between a material goal and a moral one, but in balancing the two. It is beautiful for a person to say: I want a good income, but not at the expense of my health. I want a higher position, but not at the cost of my principles. I want to live a dignified life, while simultaneously leaving a positive impact on the lives of those around me.
A person’s worth is not measured by what others possess or what they might obtain from others, but by what they build within themselves first. Therefore, true deservingness begins not with demands, but with working on self-development and achieving personal value.
Love yourself, care for yourself, and give yourself the attention, development, and respect you deserve. Do not let your happiness depend on someone else coming to achieve for you what you have not sought to achieve yourself.
Ultimately, the most beautiful goal is not to find someone who will spend on us or fulfill our dreams on our behalf, but to become people capable of building a beautiful life with those we choose, based on respect, appreciation, and a balance between material needs and meaning.
