Loss is dear and injury is grave.. #Omar_Dhahar_Abu_Raqba

Losing your brother and companion in life is no small matter. He was not just a brother, but a close friend to me from my childhood until the very end. He was present in every stage of my life, from our home and the streets to school, the club, and even our travels. His presence grew even stronger during the 33 years of his illness, at every milestone I reached and every fleeting memory I encountered. His mental, intellectual, and spiritual presence remained with me, known only to God, as we shared a profound alignment in thought and perspective. We were bound by deep emotions and feelings that we would recall together, with thoughts arising in unspoken harmony. This is the written destiny we believe in. My consolation is that I learned much patience and wisdom from him. I remember his strong faith in destiny when he said, after his tragic accident: “God’s decree is what He wills, and He does as He pleases… Words by which the mind is shaped.” These were the opening lines of a poem by our beloved deceased, which I cannot recall now. Therefore, we must realize that some destinies do not come to change our entire lives, but to shift the single angle through which we view life. Illness, pain, or harsh health circumstances may come, and at first, we may feel they have taken much from us, that life is no longer as it was. But as days pass, we learn that some destinies are not measured by what they change in our external lives, but by what they transform within us. Patience in suffering is not easy, and enduring difficult health conditions requires strength unseen by others. Yet, these circumstances teach us to appreciate things we once considered ordinary: a quiet day, a step taken without pain, a moment with loved ones, or a sense of comfort and ease. We may not be able to change what is written for us, but we can choose how we perceive it. Patience does not mean a person feels no pain; it means that despite the pain, they persevere; despite exhaustion, they hold onto hope; and despite harsh conditions, they believe that God is more merciful than anything else. Perhaps the most beautiful gift of some trials is that they do not merely change our lives, but reorder our priorities, reveal the value of blessings, and grant us a more patient heart, a deeper perspective, and faith that behind every destiny lies wisdom, even if we do not understand it at the time. Some destinies do not come to close life’s doors, but to teach us how to open another window and see life differently. What I wish to convey in this article is that when you experience the death and loss of a loved one, do not surrender to grief. Loss is painful, and tears are natural, but keep your heart at peace with God’s decree. Entrust your affairs to God, be patient, and seek reward. Remember that those we love may have left our sight, but they have not left God’s mercy. God says: “And give good tidings to the patient.” So be patient, seek reward, and pray frequently for those you have lost. Be certain that God is more merciful to them than you are, and that what is with God is better and more enduring. O God, have mercy on our dead and the dead of Muslims. Heal the hearts of those who have lost their loved ones, grant them patience and solace, and reunite them with their loved ones in the Gardens of Bliss. Indeed, loss is dear and the tragedy immense, but do not grieve when you realize you fulfilled your duty toward your sick relative, gave all you could, treated them in a way that pleases God, spared no effort in caring for them and standing by them until their death. After a long struggle with illness, during which our beloved deceased endured very difficult and harsh stages, he suffered greatly and bore the consequences of his illness and injury with beautiful patience and great effort, without those around him realizing the extent of his suffering, nor did he complain or show his pain. We must emulate him and the lessons he taught us in his life, his patience, and his strong faith in God. He was patient and seeking reward, and before God’s decree, we have nothing to do but submit and be content, praying for him for mercy and forgiveness, giving charity at every opportunity, and asking that his illness, exhaustion, and suffering serve as expiation for him and an elevation of his ranks with the Most Merciful of the merciful. May God have mercy on our beloved deceased, my brother Omar Dhia’ Abu Ruqba. May God heal the hearts of our family and his friends, inspire us with patience and solace, and count all the care and attention provided by his family, friends, wife, and daughters in their scales of good deeds. Our final prayer is that all praise is due to God, Lord of the worlds, in every circumstance. Farewell.