Self-Destruction and Self-Inflicted Injustice
It is said that scarcity increases value… Does this mean, for instance, that one should disappear until one becomes significant? Or is the correct approach to know your own worth, so you do not squander it in the wrong places, nor compromise it with the wrong people, nor dismantle it with your own hands? It does not matter if the world does not see you fairly; what matters is that you are not the first to diminish your own value, squander your opportunities, or extinguish your light. Thus, self-destruction is practiced unconsciously.
A question now arises: What about selectivity in choice? How do we distinguish whether it is an act of self-respect, or a sign that you know exactly where to invest your time, energy, and effort in life, so as not to waste them on those who do not deserve them? Another thought crosses my mind: Is stability the true image of confidence? Or is the courage to think outside the box confidence itself? What makes a person interesting, different from others, and simply possessing a life that makes those who know them wish to be part of it—not because it is a perfect life, but because it is a living one?
If human beings are naturally programmed for growth, no one can push another to grow unless they are ready themselves, ensuring that their current version is better than yesterday’s. They live in a state of continuous development because one who knows oneself is not satisfied with less than they deserve. They do not seek someone to validate their worth, as they already know it; they are capable of forming healthy bonds with minimal emotional drain, because they do not enter relationships to fill a void, but to share their fullness. One who knows who they are also knows where they should be.
This is why people are often drawn to those who do not easily shake, because the seeker of certainty is naturally attracted to stability and resilience that are not built on words, but on accumulated small achievements, and on every victory over oneself before conquering circumstances. This is one of the laws of attraction. The source of strength is not controlling the external world, but controlling the mind that interprets this world. When a person succeeds in this, they become a safe source of peace for others. They care sincerely, speak clearly, and do not fear losing anyone, because they do not lose themselves first. They make mistakes and apologize; they fall and rise; they adapt without abandoning their principles. They know that perfection is not a condition to deserve love or respect.
But… what happens when internal worth is low? What happens when a person is presented with an opportunity, a healthy relationship, sincere love, or well-deserved success, while their depths whisper that they do not deserve any of it? Here begins the most dangerous conflict: the human struggle with their own subconscious. The mind accustomed to deprivation fears abundance. The heart raised on abandonment doubts security. The soul that has long believed itself inadequate sees every blessing as a temporary trap. Thus, self-destruction begins. Not because life has wronged them this time, but because they could not believe it had been fair. They postpone opportunities until they vanish; they test those who love them until they leave; they manufacture problems in the most peaceful moments; they refuse help, then complain of loneliness. The result? They break the branch they lean on, then blame the fall. All this because they do not fight reality, but the image they hold of themselves. They fear success because they do not know how to live after it; they fear love because they do not see themselves as worthy of it; they reject peace because they are accustomed to being on alert for danger. Their mind, without their awareness, becomes a machine searching for any evidence to confirm their old belief: “I do not deserve.”
Therefore, the most dangerous forms of self-destruction are not expressed through shouting, but through small decisions that seem logical while quietly leading their owner to lose everything they desired. Humans do not always lose the most beautiful things in their lives due to bad luck; sometimes they lose them because they never truly believed they were their destiny, and thus failed to appreciate them as they deserve. Perhaps the greatest victory a person achieves in life is not finding the right opportunity, but becoming the person capable of holding onto it when it arrives.
Finally, not everyone who advises you wants what is best for you, nor does everyone who interferes in your life seek your benefit. Some people advise you because they genuinely see the solution; others feel threatened by your vision growing and surpassing the limits of their narrow perspective—not neutral, but limited. There is a great difference between them. Do not let the abundance of opinions confuse your insight, nor give the keys to your decisions to everyone who has an opinion about you. Know well whom you consult, and choose those whose horizons are broad before you hear their words; those who have experienced before they theorize; those who love your success more than their own curiosity. Then… seek guidance from God. After that, review yourself honestly. The answer you seek is often within you, but it requires a calm heart, not the noise of others, which may often cause you to lose, only to lose, and become your own worst enemy.
